Thursday, August 17, 2017

From Now On

After all is said and done, I wish to thank every single one of the alt-right, neo-Nazi, white supremacist, terrorists of Charlottesville and your supporters. No, really. I thank you. You have laid bare for all the world the foul, rotting, rancid, tumorous, excrement-filled, racist underbelly of America with such efficiency it is completely unnecessary anymore to debate whether it exists. Thank you for showing us the violent true selves of the Nazis masquerading as teachers, employers, politicians, financiers, students, bankers--white men from many walks of life. Never again will any decent, reasonable person have to waste breath proving that there are willing, people eagerly carrying on with the oppressive work of the Jim Crow era. From now on, it is entirely clear that anyone willing to argue the matter is either blind and deaf, stupid, insane, or evil. 

Thank you for demonstrating so clearly.  Yes, in America, white men can protect themselves in riot gear, make an armed advance on citizens and police officers, beat and kill human beings, and walk away, alive and without consequences. Thank you for leaving no doubt whatsoever, that in this great country, where Native Americans are set upon with violence for protecting their own land, and black citizens are killed in the street because police officers are afraid of the shape of their noses, white men can get away anything their evil minds can imagine. From now on, it is entirely clear that anyone willing to argue the matter is either blind and deaf, stupid, insane, or evil. 

Thank you for exposing, with absolute clarity how 62,979,879 betrayed voters are now drowning in the very swamp they wanted to destroy. Kudos on showing us with certainty the values of the unhinged, bigoted, racist, xenophobic fascist currently installed in the White House and where his allegiances lie. Again. There's little room for doubt where priorities lie for any man who more quickly disavowed critics of your crimes than, you the criminals. From now on, it is entirely clear that anyone willing to argue the matter is either blind and deaf, stupid, insane, or evil. 

Photo:  Katina Parker
Durham, NC residents attempting to confess
for the crime of removing Confederate monuments
Thank you for being poster children for cowardly white privilege and fragility. With a million essays, I could never have proven the case as eloquently as you have done. Never would I have dreamed it would be so easy to make mainstream America realize the ridiculousness of glorifying those traitorous losers of history who were willing to destroy a country in exchange for the privilege of keeping other human beings in bondage. Congratulations. Truly.  You have now accomplished what I feared impossible so thoroughly, discussion is no longer even necessary.  From now on, it is entirely clear that anyone willing to argue the matter is either blind and deaf, stupid, insane, or evil. Are you catching on yet?  There’s really only one right side to be on here.  One.  Right.  Side.  And you are not on it. 

See, here's the thing. The "alt-left, that far "left" group of people you fear and hate so much? Surprise!  We are the center. The middle. The bullseye.  The very heart of America. Here is where all the decent, truly patriotic Americans live. We outnumber you, and now we are awake. Thanks to you. 


Friday, January 20, 2017

I'm With Elie

We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim.
Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. 


~Elie Wiesel



There's an awful lot of people taking to social media with the "Can't we all just get along" frame of mind.  No.  No we can not.  No, I can not just wait and see what he's going to do and give him a chance.  He had a campaign to show me what he was about, and I'm not impressed.  I can not just embrace the ridiculousness that is passing for an incoming presidential administration.  Stop asking me to.  Stop implying it's the noisy people creating the problems.  We are the ones making sure all y'all don't start thinking this crap is normal.  Personally, I think Elie Wiesel is a damn good example, so I'm just going to stick with him.      

Friday, December 16, 2016

Labels, Labels






I'm thinking about labels. Let's take "progressive" for instance. Why do people throw that term around like it's a bad thing? If you had cancer, wouldn't you prefer a progressive doctor? Don't you want the one who's up to date on research and treatment options? You wouldn't want the one who is stuck using outdated methods from back when America was "great," would you? If you have to have a surgery or a c-section, don't you want a progressive surgeon? One you uses anesthesia and sterilization techniques? Would you prefer an appendectomy where they open you up neck to genitals the way they did it in the good old days? Personally, I'd prefer something a little more with the times.


What if we think about education or banking communications? Should we go back to the days of one-room school houses, the great train robbery, and mail by Pony Express? Of course not. Progress is a good thing, right?

I mean, seriously. At the time the Constitution was framed, people had some great ideas to be sure. Then they went home and had the doc come over for a quick blood-letting for their headaches and bouts with pneumonia. We've learned a few things and advanced a little since that time. It seems quite foolish to me to pretend that's a bad thing.

Look. Science is real. It is the thing that brought us the abilities to buy a house on your iPhone, bomb a country from an armchair in Nebraska, make opinions about important topics based on a meme by Jenny McCarthy, and not die a slow, itchy, agonizing death from a simple vaginal yeast infection. So, no, your conspiracy theory about climate change does not equal science. Your Google search about Common Core does not make you an expert in Education, with all due respect to Mrs DeVos.
Not everything on a Facebook meme is real, and you hearing something on the Faux News Network is not equivalent to a factual understanding of history or the ability to find and understand legitimate sources for information. Not bothering to figure out what is reliable information does not mean you're dumb. It means you're lazy. If acknowledging that makes me a crazy "progressive," bring on the label.

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Thursday, November 10, 2016

The Truth Shall Set You Free

Murica 11/8/2016:  Elects the most openly racist president in something like a hundred years.

Murica 11/9/2016:  “How dare you suggest we are racist!”



I know I said I was going to stay off social media for a while.  I’m trying.  I’m sure sometime soon I will be a bit more conciliatory in the interest of being the better person.  Yesterday, when I learned that so many of my “friends” and neighbors think my family is valueless, was not that day.  Today is not that day.  Tomorrow isn’t looking good either.  I don’t know how to make you feel better about that.  Electing any president has consequences.  Your choice has frightened and deeply hurt many, many people of America.  This is one of the consequences of electing Trump, and you need to acknowledge it, own it.  Sadly, I doubt it’s going to be the worst of the fallout.    

I’m not sure what reaction you expected from social justice-minded people when you voted for him, but it was probably unrealistic.  For future reference, if you associate yourself with a racist, sexist xenophobe, you are likely to lend the impression you are a racist, sexist xenophobe.  I deeply apologize if this surprises you.  Here’s a thought; take all that indignation, offense, and belittlement you may be feeling about being stereotyped and misunderstood.  Now, multiply it over two or three hundred years.  You then will still understand only a fraction of how it feels to be Native American, black, Hispanic, female, Muslim, LGBT+, mentally ill, or differently-abled in Murica.  Why do I say only a fraction?  You can choose to turn me off.  You’re probably not being denied dignity, the right to protect your own land, housing, a job, clean water, a crotch safe from grabby hands, the right to walk down your own damn street without being harassed, assaulted, or murdered by the people sworn to protect you; an adequate education, equal pay, health care, the right to vote, or anything else Murica has denied others.  You don’t have to wake up tomorrow and every day knowing your country thinks you don’t matter. 

With the entire depth of my being, I hope you will ponder how you arrived at a place where these behaviors are palatable, maybe even preferable to you… especially if you consider yourself a follower of Christ.  It is a deeply disturbing dichotomy to see people who say they love Jesus rationalize the degradation of the very people He died for.   I am not one of those vapid people that thinks you can say all kinds of malicious things, then excuse it with a misappropriated Bible quote and a smiley face emoji.  I may not even be a very good Christian, but I know the Bible and what it means; I know the One it leads me to.  I know what He had to say about all this.  After talking about loving God with all our hearts, souls, minds, and strengths, He taught us to love our neighbors as much as we love ourselves.  As.  Much.  As.  We.  Love.  Ourselves.  How's that for some inconvenient truth to meditate on?  Then he told this story: 
      
A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he fell into the hands of robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, took him to an inn and took care of him. The next day he took out two silver coins and gave them to the innkeeper. 'Look after him,' he said, 'and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.' "Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?" The expert in the law replied, "The one who had mercy on him." Jesus told him, "Go and do likewise." (NIV, Luke 10:25-37)

Trump and the unjust system he has gleefully promised to perpetuate are the robbers.  Are we going to be the stiff-necked, self-righteous Jewish leaders who think they only have to care for people exactly like themselves?  Or are we going to be like the despised, racially mixed Samaritan who understood the heart of God?  I’m done entertaining excuses by the Christian Right and those who are being misled by them.  If you want to be a right Christian, do what Christ says to do.  Take care of the people he loves, which in case you’ve missed it, includes ALL of us. 

#RedandYellowBlackandWhiteTheyArePreciousInHisSight  #nevertrump  #Murica  #notmypresident  #blacklivesmatter  #pussiesforsocialjustice

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Why I Refuse to be Colorblind

It is as predictable as death and taxes.  If you try to have a conversation about race in America, you inevitably get pious comments about how we should stop pointing out skin color.  The very second someone applauds an accomplishment in the context of a person's ethnicity, you get comments like these:  “Why does race have to be important and included in every report?  She’s an amazing American athlete that brought home the gold, period.”

“Why does the ignorant media take away from her amazing accomplishment by making this about her race!?  She’s part of the human race!  And an American!!!!  Congratulations!!”

“Why throw race into it?  Why not just say American?”  Do the other countries break out the race cards?” 

I would like to point out something that should be obvious to these well-meaning folks.  Your very reluctance to even speak about skin color betrays your attitude that there’s something wrong with having skin that’s not white.  There’s just no reason not to applaud Simone Manuel for being exactly who she is—a black, American, female athlete—unless you think there’s something wrong about it.  Face it.  Historically, we're usually only supposed to avoid talking about “bad” things:  sexuality, cancer, mental illness, domestic abuse, HIV.  This list goes on, and it includes race, apparently.

Think of it this way.  If someone has amazing, bright green eyes, you would have no problem pointing them out as being so different from everyone else’s.  You wouldn’t whisper the word green while describing them.  If someone else mentioned them, you wouldn’t say, “Why are you bringing eye color into it?  Color doesn't matter.  We're all Americans!”  Quite the opposite is true.  You would have no problem openly discussing her eye color because you don’t think there’s anything wrong with having different eye colors.  Why, then, can’t we talk about skin color, especially in a positive way?  We can.  We should.

Of course, there's much more to the discussion of skin color, isn't there?  It is a loaded observation to point out a person's race, because it speaks to identity in a way that eye color does not.  Here, I believe is the crux of the problem so many whites have with discussing race.  We don't want to admit that the lived experiences of people in America can be determined by skin color.  It is preferable for us to pretend we are all treated fairly regardless of what we look like, when in reality our skin color often influences experiences.  In turn, experiences are part of what shapes identity.  How can we keep arrogantly denying white privilege, if we admit we do see the different experiences and identity that so often accompany differences in skin color?  We can't.  So we pretend to be colorblind.

How can we continue holding whiteness as the standard against which everyone is measured, if we are brave enough to acknowledge white privilege?  We can't.  So we pretend to be colorblind. Sure, there is a great need for us to recognize that we are all part of one human race.  The trouble is, many of us are living under the unconscious supposition that the one race is supposed to be white.  It sounds something like, “I’m not prejudiced.  I think people of other races are just as good as whites.”  Did you catch it?  We want to stop feeling bad about racism, but we still want the default to be whiteness.  We are so uncomfortable with a change to our default, we won’t even talk about it.  So we pretend to be colorblind. 

My friends, colorblindness is not the key to peace in this country.  It is not even possible, unless you are, in fact, blind.  What value is there, then, in pretending not to see?  It's time to debunk the myth; colorblindness is not the opposite of racism.  The antithesis of racism is admiration, or at the very least, acceptance.  What if we stopped treating the differences between us as shameful things to be spoken of in hushed tones?  What if we celebrated our differences as the flavors that make us each unique?  What if we all just decided to be honest and stop pretending? 


Photo credit:  http://abc7ny.com/sports/manuel-becomes-first-african-american-woman-to-win-swim-gold/1466927/



Monday, July 11, 2016

Same Shit, Different Day


So, I read this the other day.





I'm going to put it right out there that I have a certain amount of trepidation about commenting on an essay about racial injustice, written by a biracial man, found in a publication called Black Community News.  It can certainly be argued that Bomberger has more right to comment than I.  I can accept that.  What I won't accept is misinformation, especially when the context in which I saw the article stated that he is biracial, as if this one person's opinions, because of his skin color, outweighed all the data available. I have said it before, and will repeat it.  There is no single "black experience" which can speak for all black people, any more than one woman can speak for all women.  There are, however, facts that exist which should balance any one person's opinion.  

I agree with some of what he says.  There are social problems in this country that need to be solved.  I agree abortion, so called “black on black violence,” police safety, etc. all need better solutions.  I just don’t agree that those problems negate the very real issue of systemic racism in the United States.  I don’t agree that these problems justify ignoring other problems.  Nor do I agree that all other social problems need to be solved before we can address the use of excessive force by the police against African Americans.  To imply that they do is ridiculous.  Imagine if I wrote something suggesting that we couldn’t try to stop heart disease because people die of cancer.

I’m annoyed by the tired “black on black” crime thing.  Sorry.  It is just a stupid argument.  We aren't allowed to call for racial justice because of "black on black" violence?  (Or, as I like to call it, violence.)  83 percent of white murders are committed by white offenders.  90 percent of black murders are committed by black offenders.  What does that prove?  Nothing except what we already know—most murder victims know their killer.  It's probably unrealistic to expect anything better than a violent culture from a nation who solves every foreign policy problem by spending a trillion dollars to blow it up.  In any case, I am bothered by his misleading use of statistics like this.  For someone so disgusted by media misrepresentation, maybe he should not be adding to it. 

Let me put it this way.  Blacks comprise about thirteen to fifteen percent of the United States population, depending on the source.  All things being equal, one would expect, then, about thirteen percent of US doctors to be black.  One would expect about thirteen percent of the people in prison to be black.  One would expect about thirteen percent of the business owners in the US to be black.  One would expect about thirteen percent of women getting abortions to be black.  One would expect about thirteen percent of the people killed in officer-involved fatalities to be black.  Makes sense, right?

Here’s the reality (see endnotes for references):
1.     Black doctors = 4-7%
2.     Black prisoners = 37%
3.     Black business owners = 37.4%
4.     Black abortions = 30%
5.     Black police fatalities = 26%
6.     Black high school graduates = 69% of black students graduate (86% of white students graduate)
7.     Black school expulsions/suspensions = 50% (on average, 24% of students are black)
8.     Black college graduates = 26% (whites 41%)
9.     Black welfare recipients = 39% (same for whites)
10. Black unemployment rate = 8% (white 4%)
11. Black homeowners = 44% of African Americans, (73% of whites own their homes.) What’s even worse is that black-owned homes were valued at 18% less than white-owned homes, even for homeowners with equal incomes.

According to this essay, we are supposed to be appalled at the 30% of abortions in 13% of the population, but unconcerned at the 26% of police fatalities within the same 13% of the population?  That simply does not make sense.  Look, I’m pro-life too, but I strongly suspect that means something different to me than it does to this author.  I believe that safeguarding the sanctity of life is not an obligation that stops at birth.  I believe we are equally compelled to defend every child’s safety and access to opportunity, regardless of race.  Come on.  What are we trying to save our babies for?  I’m serious.  To get shot in the street without a trial or go to prison for a dime-bag while a white swimmer rapes somebody and gets a slap?  Are we really going to say the media is making it all up?  No. 

Look at the numbers, and think.  Forget about black and white.  Forget about the 300 years of government-sanctioned enslavement.  Take any people group, create a system that will for a hundred years deny them education, employment, housing, and opportunity in general; herd them into certain communities through redlining; kill and imprison the men in disproportionally high numbers; and limit access both financially and geographically to health care except abortion clinics.   Kind of sounds like a recipe for high abortion rates to me.  Here we are trying to say we want to stop abortion because we believe human lives are sacred.  I say, if we want to show that human lives are divine miracles, we have to value the homeless drug addict, and the gang member, and the black guy with the broken taillight as much as we value the soccer mom and the CEO. 

As long as we are on stereotypes and soccer moms, let’s talk about white guilt.  This guy is mad because some white people feel bad?  ARE YOU SERIOUS!?!?!  What a load of crap, and how arrogant to generalize the motivation of people he does not know.  Isn’t it thinking like this that perpetuates the mess? I am white, and I will continue to fight for police reform not out of some misplaced sense of white guilt, but for my family and loved ones.  I support the work of Black Lives Matter, despite that same, tired clip everyone keeps dredging up with the crazy bacon fryers.  Speaking of unbalanced media representation, and all—there are chapters and have been peaceful demonstrations all over the United States for the last four years, and the only media image you ever see is the bacon one.  <SMH and rolling my eyes> 

Let me put his mind at ease.  I do not feel guilty for a damn thing related to racial justice, nor does any single person of color I know want me to.  It seems to me that they just want the justice and freedom promised to all of us by that Constitution we worship.  Even though I am white, I may have clued in to something very important that his essay completely misses.  This is not about how white people feel.  GASP!   Try to stay with me here.  Despite the fact that we keep trying to make it about ourselves, this issue is not.  About.  White people.  At all.  Speaking as one, though, I can tell you that having a basic understanding of concepts like white privilege and knowing the historical context of practices like redlining have helped me understand the problem at hand.

The problem we are facing is not what people are "feeling.”  Who cares how we feel about other people, other races?  You can't control the emotions of other people, and someone else's emotions can't harm you.  The longer we keep tiptoeing around each other's feelings instead of addressing the actual problem—a discriminatory system—the more black kids are going to die needlessly.  Does it matter that it is only happening to 0.000006 percent of the black population?  Not to the mamas of the 0.000006 percent, it doesn’t.

Bomberger, like many others, makes a big point of mentioning that more whites are killed by police than blacks. I could mathematically explain how he is again using numbers to present misleading information by failing to account for the vast difference in population size, but why bother?  Why are we accepting the killing of anyone, of any skin color without a proper trial? Why?  Why are we not employing even the most rudimentary de-escalation techniques?  Don’t tell me it is because of the danger police face.  The situations around the killings of Sterling and Castile were about as dangerous a shooting fish in a barrel, and don’t even make me point out Tamir Rice.  Now, don’t lose your mind.  I know there are legitimate dangers to police.  The problem here is that the police don’t have to be in any actual danger to get away with killing people.  They only have to feel in danger, and it apparently doesn’t even matter if the police have themselves escalated the situation to the point that they feel endangered.  Well, if the police officer’s feelings of safety are such an issue, why are we not training these officers to manage unconscious bias and otherwise ensuring they can make sound tactical decisions instead of killing people because they feel an unfounded fear?

I’ll tell you why.  There is no accountability.  None.  Are you aware that police departments in the US are not even required to report police fatalities to anyone, let alone investigate them?  If they are investigated, it is done internally, with no transparency.  As if that ever really works for anything!  I am no attorney, but as I understand it, the burden of proof is much different when it comes to officer-involved fatalities, making it incredibly difficult for criminal charges to be made.  By contrast, in Australia, all police shootings are subject to national monitoring and, I can only assume, appropriate consequences.  Big surprise then, that even when adjusted for the difference in population size, Australian police kill a fraction of the people that ours do.12  We kill in one month, what they did in almost twenty years.  Wow.  Is the disparity explained away by media bias?  Is it any less dangerous to be a cop in Australia?  Do you think there is no prejudice or fear in Australia?  Come on.  We are smarter than that, aren’t we?


The best way I know how to say it is like this:  I do not care if someone hates my kid because he is black.  Could not care less.  Whatever.  Everyone has to learn to deal with idiots.  What I care deeply about is whether or not someone can harm my kid and get away with it because he is black.  In this country, in the year 2016, the sad reality is that yes, someone--even someone sworn to protect him--could harm my child or yours and get away with it.  That is a terrible problem which needs an immediate and concrete solution. Don’t you dare try to dismiss it.



1.  Ellyn R. Boukus, Alwyn Cassil, Ann S. O'Malley, A Snapshot of U.S. Physicians: Key Findings from the 2008 Health Tracking Physician Survey, 2009
2.  U.S. Department of Justice, 2014
3.  US Census Bureau
4.  Multiple sources
5.  Bomberger essay
6.  and 8.  US Department of Education
7.  Equal Justice Initiative, http://www.eji.org/node/1141
9.  US department of Commerce
10.  US Bureau of Labor Statistics
11.  Harvard University; Forbes http://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesleadershipforum/2012/12/10/how-home-ownership-keeps-blacks-poorer-than-whites/#62b46bf57e57
12.  https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jun/09/the-counted-police-killings-us-vs-other-countries






Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Not Just A Pretty Face

Context is everything. Until we can come to terms with the historical context in which blacks and other "minorities" were legislated into poverty and lack of opportunity, we will get nowhere, as far as uniting our country. GAH!  I hate the word "minorities." Nonetheless, we have generations of white folks from the 70's and 80's on, who mistakenly believe that racism has been cured and everyone has equal opportunity. Why? Because we were told about the highlights of the civil rights movement without learning the proper context.

We have been taught what's important is that we act nice to black people so we don't FEEL like bigots. With all due respect, I don't give a rat's ass about how you feel. I do not care whether people like my kids or whether they are  prejudiced dumbasses. Everyone has to learn how to deal with morons and jerks.  I care whether you, or their school administrators, or the court system can harm them or deprive them of their rights. Ask Tamir Rice if that happens.

So, what is it I'm always blathering about?  Pure evil genius. Tell people where the can live and work. Do not allow them to take out loans or own businesses and homes so they will lack financial opportunities. That's called redlining, job discrimination, and housing discrimination.

Structure the funding of schools around property values so that rich (white) areas have more and poor and minority areas have much less. Restrict access to learning, the arts, textbooks, resources because there isn't enough money. Turn out year after year of students not properly prepared for college or entrepreneurship, and without the financial buffer of family financial support. That's called educational disparity and systemic racism.  And we are still doing it, my friends. Why are we still funding education as if poor kids deserve less than rich kids?  

Tell people where they are allowed to live. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.  Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Every 18 years starting with the Emancipation Proclamation. That's called Generational poverty.  Does it ONLY happen to blacks and not whites?  No. Of course not. Does the fact that it does happen to whites erase the reality that it has happened disproportionally to blacks?  Nope. Further, I would argue that even the poorest of white families did not get that way because the law said they had to live inside a red line on a map.





Which brings me to this guy. Not just a pretty face--who knew?!?!?!?  Here it is in Jesse Williams' words. It's a little long, and he's is unfiltered in this video.  I especially like these excerpts, but watch it yourself.

"Generational poverty is a very real thing... You can't corral an entire segment of the population in the ghetto away from the American Dream then wonder why it doesn't look like a Norman Rockwell painting."

"Housing discrimination is the biggest [effing] secret in this country... Suburbs were created to subsidize white upward mobility, while it was against the law for black people to get a loan, illegal for black people to own the deed to their property"

Watch the video. He's making a lot of sense, even if it's tough to hear.

https://www.facebook.com/theconsciousandaware/videos/866349313457281/https://www.facebook.com/theconsciousandaware/videos/866349313457281/